Not to rant, but you are actually missing out on the (probably) greatest advantages of using a FreeBSD powered server. I am shivering when I think about apt/spm/rpm/yum.
When it comes to packaging systems, I hate'em all. :-) But, of the ones I've spent time with, I prefer apt. (Specfically, building/maintaining my own apt's, fitting my business needs, not using pre-built ones...).
I'm especially particular to applications that expose anything to the outside world (and their dependencies). These, I always prefer to install by hand, and maintain a /usr/local/src (freebsd) or apt packages (linux). This way, when vulnerabilities come out, I can address them faster than the maintainers can (or at least, I'm not gated oin them). And, files go where *I* want them to go, instead of playing hunt-the-wumpus wondering where a given port put stuff.
All a matter of preference. :-)
List info: http://lists.roundcube.net/dev/